Relationship Rendezvous

Successful Dating

SUCCESSFUL FIRST DATES

• Do something of interest to the other person.    Find out about him/her!
• It’s a good idea to have a coffee or a drink     in a pleasant & comfortable environment.It makes it easy to converse     and see body language!
• Remember : he/she is as nervous as you are!    It’s sometimes a good idea to confess to the nerves – and get the     awkwardness out the way!
• Don’t monopolise the conversation. Don’t     interrogate him/her. It’s an interactive process!
• Try your best to drop any outside interference     or distractions. Remain present with him/her.
• Just his/her signals as best you can to see if     a second date may be on the cards…

 

Indications of a warm response on first date

 Any of the following are a good sign:

• Prolonged eye contact
• Smiles (free and easy) and sometimes…    lingering
• An easy rapport
• Light touching of arms or knees
• Ready laughter
• The sense of time flying by!

 

Ask if they’d like to meet up again – swap email addresses (if you’re not too comfortable with phone numbers yet)

It’s polite to send a “thank you” message and take it from there.

 

Indications of a “not-so-hot” first date

• The atmosphere feels formal and stiff
• He/she is reserved
• Conversation is forced
• Eye contact is being avoided
• You get the idea the two of you don’ have much     in common.

 

If no second date happens:

• Don’t feel rejected
• Regard each opportunity as a learning     experience and remember that people are different and at varying stages in     their life.
• It’s not YOU. It takes two to tango – as the     saying goes.

 

Also – as with everything… practice makes perfect.

It may take a few dates for you to develop the right balance of confidence and relaxation!

Capture the learning from each date; and apply it to the next.

On the flip side of the coin – remember to keep your values solid;

perhaps the person is not right for you.

Keep an open, yet realistic mind.